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Forbes Women – Business Advice When Colleagues Give You TMI – Too Much Information

Dr. Fran Walfish

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The best way to handle it when a colleague tells you something they shouldn’t have is to be honest and say, “TMI….Too much information!”  Then, elaborate in a kind, benign, and ‘I mean business’ tone-of-voice by saying, “Knowing this shared information makes me uncomfortable.  Please refrain from sharing content I cannot manage nor promise I will keep contained solely to myself.” That should shut her up!  If the info affects another person’s safety you are in the exquisitely delicate position of deciding whether to take action.  You may need to go to HR or a superior and report to protect all parties involved.

Business Habits That Can Make You Less Likable at Work

  1. They try to control other people, especially their team partner.
  2. They are too dependent on others.  Instead, praise every increment in yourself toward independence and moving outward into the world.  Cherish your ability to stand on your own.
  3. They don’t give others the benefit of the doubt.  They see colleagues as the enemy.  Instead, view people as good until they demonstrate otherwise.  Most people are good.  Those who are not will reveal themselves in time and you can weed out the ones who are not worthy of your trust.
  4. They are perfectionists!  Instead, do not strive for perfection.  Be “good enough.”
  5. They are critical and opinionated.  Instead, build self-esteem toward self and others by using words that support and motivate with empathy, rather than criticize.
  6. They hold in their complaints and dissatisfactions until they explode with a laundry list.  Instead, express your feelings in the moment.  Do not allow anger and disappointment to build up inside you.  Say what you feel clearly and respectfully.  It will free you.
  7. They are wound up tight, Type A personalities and don’t cut themselves any slack.  Give yourself Special Time.  Take 10-15 minutes each day to be with yourself and chill.  You’d be surprised how challenging this is when you have a peer and clients tugging at you 24/7.  Give yourself short, undivided, positive attention each day for nourish and fortify you.
  8. FRAN’S “7 SECRETS” OF HAPPY BUSINESS PROFESSIONALS:

By: Dr. Fran Walfish

www.DrFranWalfish.com

Give up trying to control other people, especially your partner.

  1.  Praise every increment in yourself toward independence and moving outward into the world.  Cherish your ability to stand on your own.
  2.  View people as good until they demonstrate otherwise.  Most people are good.  Those who are not will reveal themselves in time and you can weed out the ones who are not worthy of your trust.
  3.  Do not strive for perfection.  Be “good enough.”
  4.  Build self-esteem toward self and others by using words that support and motivate with empathy, rather than criticize.
  5.  Express your feelings in the moment.  Do not allow anger and disappointment to build up inside you.  Say what you feel clearly and respectfully.  It will free you.
  6.  Give yourself Special Time.  Take 10-15 minutes each day to be with yourself and chill.  You’d be surprised how challenging this is when you have a spouse, children, and clients tugging at you 24/7.  Give yourself short, undivided, positive attention each day for nourish and fortify you.

I am Dr. Fran Walfish, leading couples relationship and family psychologist and author in Beverly Hills, CA. In addition to my full private practice where I treat many celebrities and their families, I was on clinical staff in the Department of Psychiatry at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center for 15 years. I was a school psychologist and recently completed my 4 year-term as Chair of the Board of The Early Childhood Parenting Center founded at Cedars-Sinai, Los Angeles. I was trained by world-renown psychoanalyst, Saul L. Brown, M.D., Director of the Department of Psychiatry, Cedars-Sinai Medical Center. I co-starred in Sex Box on WEtv, and I am a regular on-camera expert contributor to CBS2 News and FOX News in Los Angeles, NBC Nightly News with Brian Williams, The Doctors (CBS TV), CNN i-report, The Wall Street Journal, NPN national syndicated network, ABC 7 News, Turner Broadcasting Network, Ladies Home Journal, Parents magazine, People Magazine, People.com, Parents.com, The Chicago Tribune, World Entertainment News Network (WENN), Parenting magazine, Parenting.com, American Baby magazine, Family Circle magazine, Woman's Day magazine, Ladies Home Journal, Momlogic.com, Parenting Teens Resource Network, ABCNews.com, and NBCMiami.com. Please view my website at www.DrFranWalfish.com for more info. Attached below is a file containing my electronic press kit (EPK). Just click on the icon to view my bio, platform profile, book info, and picture. I write a weekly relationship and parenting Q & A column that is published in The Beverly Hills Courier newspaper. Here is the link to several of my columns posted on the Courier's website http://bhcourier.com/?s=dr+fran+walfish (in addition to their hard newspaper). I am also one of PARENTS magazine's "Ask The Experts" for their regular monthly Q & A column. My book, The Self-Aware Parent: Resolving Conflict and Building A Better Bond with Your Child, is represented by William Morris Endeavor Entertainment (WME) and published by Palgrave Macmillan/St. Martin's Press, launched December 7, 2010. Simon & Schuster published my original chapter Why Empathy Matters in their all-star psychologists anthology book Tough Love, December, 2017. Dr. Fran and William Morris Endeavor Entertainment Agency (WME) are currently in development of her new TV Series.

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