Forbes Women – Business Advice When Colleagues Give You TMI – Too Much Information

The best way to handle it when colleagues tell you something they shouldn’t have is, to be honest, and say, “TMI….Too much information!”  Then, elaborate in a kind, benign, and ‘I mean business’ tone-of-voice by saying, “Knowing this shared information makes me uncomfortable.  Please refrain from sharing content I cannot manage nor promise I will keep contained solely to myself.” That should shut her up!  If the info affects another person’s safety you are in the exquisitely delicate position of deciding whether to take action.  You may need to go to HR or a superior and report to protect all parties involved.

Business Habits That Can Make You Less Likable at Work

1. They try to control other people, especially their team partner.
2. They are too dependent on others.  Instead, praise every increment in yourself toward independence and moving outward into the world.  Cherish your ability to stand on your own.
3. They don’t give others the benefit of the doubt.  They see colleagues as the enemy.  Instead, view people as good until they demonstrate otherwise.  Most people are good.  Those who are not will reveal themselves in time and you can weed out the ones who are not worthy of your trust.
4. They are perfectionists!  Instead, do not strive for perfection.  Be “good enough.”
5. They are critical and opinionated.  Instead, build self-esteem toward self and others by using words that support and motivate with empathy, rather than criticize.
6. They hold in their complaints and dissatisfactions until they explode with a laundry list.  Instead, express your feelings at the moment.  Do not allow anger and disappointment to build up inside you.  Say what you feel clearly and respectfully.  It will free you.
7. They are wound uptight, Type A personalities and don’t cut themselves any slack.  Give yourself Special Time.  Take 10-15 minutes each day to be with yourself and chill.  You’d be surprised how challenging this is when you have a peer and clients tugging at you 24/7.  Give yourself short, undivided, positive attention each day for nourish and fortify you.

By: Dr. Fran Walfish

www.DrFranWalfish.com

Give up trying to control other people, especially your partner.

1.  Praise every increment in yourself toward independence and moving outward into the world.  Cherish your ability to stand on your own.
2.  View people as good until they demonstrate otherwise.  Most people are good.  Those who are not will reveal themselves in time and you can weed out the ones who are not worthy of your trust.
3.  Do not strive for perfection.  Be “good enough.”
4.  Build self-esteem toward self and others by using words that support and motivate with empathy, rather than criticize.
5.  Express your feelings at the moment.  Do not allow anger and disappointment to build up inside you.  Say what you feel clearly and respectfully.  It will free you.
6.  Give yourself Special Time.  Take 10-15 minutes each day to be with yourself and chill.  You’d be surprised how challenging this is when you have a spouse, children, and clients tugging at you 24/7.  Give yourself short, undivided, positive attention each day for nourish and fortify you.